Life for many is strategic. While some see it as a chess match, I see it as more of a dance, flowing between moments of when you need to lead and times when you need to follow.

As you move with that flow of life, you need to be aware of the importance of that needed seduction. It is the most important missing ingredient in life, a seduction helps break us free from the monotony of life.

Seduction, as an objective…preferred by marketing professionals, power brokers, and of course in romance. Many use this art, to play the game of life as though it’s all about “the win,” with the constant objective to conquer and control. For me I’m all about the “art of seduction.” So, how do I apply it in my life? Daily, and with every aspect. From selecting or hand preparing meals I eat, to selecting the clothes I wear, to the choices of style and placement of objects that I live with.

I do not live, in anything high-end, I have little to no labels of clothing options to wear, and as a designer, I have nothing I own in my home from a high-end showroom. But, everything I touch truly represents me. I do not live a copy-and-paste lifestyle. This is all about self-seduction. But, for whomever I find special in my life, he then becomes my chosen recipient.

As far as personal connections, yes, I apply it, subtly and sparingly. When I meet people, I truly enjoy getting to know them, and seeing how they walk in the world, and what makes them happy. This form of seduction unfortunately is rare these days. With so many needing to hawk for “likes” and attention, they truly do not understand the basics of forming a connection with others.

But, as much as I enjoy meeting people. I’m extremely comfortable with my boundaries. I need, and I’m all about being transparent and fair. If I learn that this respect it’s not a two-way street, and manipulation, deception, and covert agendas, are now front and center. Then it’s game on! The dark side is now in play! Though I’m not a bully, I’m very comfortable letting the other players know where I stand, and I’m not here to take their shit.

So, what’s the point here? Well, it’s about taking the same principle, in this case, a “seduction,” and seeing how it applied in very different concepts and applications to others. This brings me to the point that everything, has a light and dark side, yin or yang, victim or villain.

I learned very early in my life about perception and how off, it can be. What one sees and hears, another can see and hear the complete opposite. I have wished for a long time that we all could walk around with some sort of parental guidance or warning label. So that we are free to be who we are, but at the same time very aware that there is a label attached to a specific human, ready to guide us with the needed insight and direction for the proper interaction.

Unfortunately, that is not the case, so we’re left to intuitively guide ourselves. Dodging and weaving our way through the uncharted waters of other people’s emotional stuff.

No matter how many years of basic training as a human I have had being exposed to “other people’s emotional trauma.” I still get shocked and disappointed, and I don’t think that will ever change, especially as an empath.

Empath, what a strange word. Yes, I get it, it’s all about being over-sensitive and in connection with how others feel. But, let’s get real here, remember, this is a no-filter zone! This is a word, they created for trauma-related backgrounds. But, as I said, in my life experience with “playing with others,” I have experienced the severe opposite, of those on the trauma spectrum. On one side you have the empath (sensitive to others), and then the opposite end of that spectrum, those who are completely and callously removed from any type of sensitivity for others and animals. Their agenda in life is all about conquer and control. A thought process of it’s kill-or-be-killed mindset.

Being a huge YouTube fan, I came across this video by L I G H T, and it was the first time, I had ever heard someone articulate this same perspective so well, and it was quite enlightening. To hear another, share a story from her Father, regarding how the perception of let’s say, two people can be so drastically different from others. How both can be equal, but be perceived so differently.

Life!

xx gail